Women often complain that husbands spend most of their time away from home. They spend most of their time outside with friends or visiting their parents. On the other hand, husbands complain that wives are always busy with children and do not care about their husbands.

Let’s see what the Word of God says on this subject:

1. Your friend is your equal

We find details of the friendship between husband and wife and that they are the same in Genesis 2: 15-25. God gave man the responsibility of cultivating and caring for the land. He took care of the animals and named them. But among the animals there was none that was suitable for the company of man. The man wished he had an equal. He needed someone to stand by his side, not someone he would rule over. That’s according to Genesis 2:20, which says: “Man named all domesticated animals, all birds in the air, and all wild animals. He saw many animals and birds, but could not find a suitable companion for him. “.

So God made a wife for the man. She was equal to the man and that is why she could be his friend. She was part of him. The man did not dominate her. The man and his wife worked together and became one flesh according to Genesis 2:24. There was nothing hidden between them. They trusted each other perfectly. As a result, they were not ashamed to be together according to Genesis 2:25, which says, “The man and his wife were naked, but they were not ashamed.” Adam and Eve were best friends. God wanted marriage to be like this. Husband and wife must completely trust each other. They must reveal and share their thoughts and bodies. No one should rule the other. They must help and support each other. God’s desire was for husband and wife to be each other’s best friends. That is the purpose of marriage.

2. Your spouse should be closer to you than either of your parents.

Let’s look at these scriptures; Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19: 5 and Ephesians 5:31:

Gen 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and joins himself with his wife. In this way, two people become one.

Mat 19: 5 And God said: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife. And the two people will become one. ‘

Ephesians 5:31 The Scriptures say, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two peoples will become one.”

The husband brought his wife to her parents’ home when they were married during the time the Bible was being written. This is what is practiced in many areas of Africa as custom. However, God is saying that the husband must also leave his father and mother when he marries. Families must not interfere in the marriage. When a husband has to choose between his wife and his parents, he must be with his wife according to Ephesians 5: 31-33:

Ephesians 5:31 The Scriptures say, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two peoples will become one.”

Ephesians 5:32 That secret truth is very important; I mean Christ and the church.

Ephesians 5:33 But each of you should love your wife as you love yourself. And a wife must respect her husband.

Now they are one. They both have to honor their parents and listen to their advice. The two are now close friends.

3. Marriage is more important than your children

In the scriptures that we read in the previous point, we do not read anything about children. This shows that the marriage is complete in the eyes of God, even if there are no children. It is the people who add the issue of children to validate a marriage, especially male children. However, according to the Word, children are an additional gift and a blessing to parents. Marriage is the foundation for taking full responsibility for your children. If a husband must choose between his wife and children, his wife must come first. The same applies to the wife, her husband must come first. It is necessary to lay a suitable base. Children should know that their parents are one. Otherwise, an incorrect base will crack.

4. A husband, a wife

Genesis 2:24 does not speak of wives. God made a wife for Adam. Even today God is speaking of a husband and wife for each other according to Malachi 2:15. It says: “God wants husbands and wives to become one body and one spirit. Why? So that they have holy children and protect that spiritual unity. Do not cheat on your wife. She has been your wife since you were”. young man. “The first man to have more than one wife in the Bible is Lameck according to Genesis 4: 19-24. We are told that he was an evil man. Now, you can give yourself completely in love to only one person. Between lovers, no one can tolerate rivals like God cannot tolerate it with His people according to Exodus 20: 5, which says, “Do not worship or serve idols of any kind, for I, the LORD, am your God. I hate my people who worship other gods. People who sin against me become my enemies, and I will punish them. And I will punish your children, your grandchildren and even your great-grandchildren. “There is no place for the second person in the heart of a man or a woman. Marriage is the most important relationship in the world between two people. This relationship is compared with the relationship between Christ and the church according to Ephesians 5: 24-32. Just as God loves his people, the husband must also love his wife.Just as the church gives herself to Christ, the wife must give herself to her husband.

We have learned that one of the purposes of marriage was for a man to have a partner. That is a friend who is your equal. What that means is that the wife must be suitable for the husband. The husband and wife must be friends. The two become one flesh. No other human relationship should replace that of husband and wife. So strive for unity with your spouse. If you need advice on relationship problems, you can contact me.