If you are here reading this article, then you probably fall into one of two different camps. Or you’re one of the millions of women in a relationship who are frustrated with your guy because your relationship isn’t moving toward marriage. Or you’re one of the millions of women on the dating scene who can’t seem to get their relationship off the launch pad. You may feel like you’ll never find the love you deserve or start the family you want. In any case… time is ticking. So you may be wondering, “What can I do to get a man to marry you in 12 months?”

If you are already in a relationship, one of the greatest temptations is to give ultimatums to achieve that long-awaited alliance. This could lead to a path of committing suicide in the relationship. However, if you feel the need to present your boyfriend with an ultimatum about her relationship, it needs to be genuine. Ultimatums are common when it comes to women who desperately want to commit to their boyfriend. The waiting game breeds desperation (especially if you’ve been waiting for over a year or two for your boyfriend to finally ask the question) and desperation can lead to threats!

When we talk about ultimatums, what we are really doing is using a fancy word for threats. Women who use marriage ultimatums with their boyfriends obviously don’t realize that this form of pressure and ‘all or nothing’ attitude commonly results in the demise of the relationship.

So does this mean never using ultimatums? Are they ever acceptable? Only when you are ready to handle the truth and act on it. If you’re giving your boyfriend a ‘now or never’ lecture, you’d better be prepared to pack up and walk away if she comes back with a ‘never’ answer. Staying in a relationship after he says ‘never’ only results in the loss of all credibility and influence in the relationship. Nevertheless; if he gets an answer ‘now’, then his wishes have come true. The bottom line is that he should only use ultimatums if he is ready to hear the truth and is willing to act on it, whatever it is.

If you’re not currently in a relationship and you’re wondering “Where can I find a man to marry you in 12 months?”, where do you start? Many women dive into online dating desperate to find “Mr. Right.” Statistics show that 90% of the women who participate in online dating sites send emails to the same 10% of the men on those sites. As you can see, the competition is fierce and can be unfair to women. You need to learn the best online dating practices. Take the time to learn the do’s and don’ts of online dating before you arrive on the scene to avoid a discouraging waste of time.

Have you ever heard the inspirational quote that goes something like this: “Our character is what we do when we think no one is watching”? Yeah, well… that wisdom can also be applied to relationships. You can get a good indication of a potential boyfriend’s character simply by observing what he does and how he treats others when “it doesn’t matter.”

You can tell a lot about a person’s character just by watching how they interact with other people when they think no one is looking. Guys are always able to put on a ‘forehead’ for a short period of time, especially on a date. But ultimately they will always return to their true character. Focusing on someone’s actions when no one is looking is a good indicator of their true character. Go to the guy with good character.

If men don’t approach you, ask yourself if there might be something that makes you ‘unapproachable’. Men always approach women, but there are a few exceptions that will stop them in their tracks: a group of women, a woman sitting down, an “evil” facial expression, etc. Could you be doing something that prevents men from getting close to you?

Men act in mysterious ways and what they try most to protect in life is their “ego”. Yeah, no man likes a shattered ego. Because of this, men generally approach women who seem “confident,” rather than someone who is likely to embarrass or reject them. Most men won’t approach a woman in a group of friends either. This can be intimidating and make the guy feel like he has to impress all the ladies instead of just one. What I’m trying to say is that if you want a man to approach you more often, learn how men view certain situations and position yourself to be more approachable.

Finally, your appearance is not the only thing that attracts men, it is the whole package. Too many women think they have to be a “10”, and anything else will bring them down. This results in low levels of self-confidence. Without self-confidence, your chances of finding the perfect man and getting him to commit are slim. When it comes to attracting men, it’s not about a personal characteristic that you may or may not have, it’s about the total score!

I hope this has been of some help to you. I wish you the best on your journey. Obviously, this is just advice, and you should only use it at your own risk when considering what you can do to get a man to marry you within 12 months.