How to stop imposter syndrome in its tracks and be more UP yourself
We have all experienced it at some point in our lives. Feeling that we are not good enough, that we are going to be discovered or that we are out of our reach.
Damn imposter syndrome. It sure can hit hard, especially for us women. It is so common that I included a question in my Cards for Uniqueness packet asking
“When have you felt or acted like an impostor?”
I find it fascinating to hear people’s responses to the question, particularly if they bring up the letter during our podcast interview. No matter what their origin or history is, they can always remember a moment when they felt it most movingly.
The truth is that it can happen to anyone at any time regardless of our experience, status, position or title. It can happen professionally and even socially. You know the feeling: that inner knot, that inquiring mind, undermines our competence, ability and confidence And once you’ve started, it can be a slippery slope to go down.
So we want to identify her, call out to her, and stop her in her tracks when she tries to latch on. Here are 3 ways to STOP Imposter Syndrome in its tracks and be more UP Yourself:
“I won’t do it unless I can do it perfectly.”
Stop being a perfectionist princess, she is one of the best friends of the impostor syndrome. This thought is very damaging to your self-esteem, also known as UP Yourself. I know what you’re thinking, but isn’t it important to do a good job? Of course it is, but setting goals and standards that are too high for yourself is bound to leave you feeling inadequate and like an impostor when you fall short of the goal. You set yourself up for failure and then punish yourself for not measuring up!
Advice: Stop trying to control everything, princess. When you lose your ridiculous self-imposed mark on something, don’t you accuse yourself of “not be cut” because you are the task. No one can be perfect and you have to be perfect 100 percent of the time.
If you find yourself constantly believing that you could have done even better, then start acknowledging and celebrating your achievements and taking your mistakes in stride, seeing them as a natural part of the process. The truth is that there will never be a “perfect time” and your work will never be a perfect 10. The sooner you accept it and be more optimistic, the better it will be for you.
“I was lucky”.
So you think you have lady luck on your side, huh? All time? Really.
Be more yourself woman. You’ve worked hard to get to where you are, right? If you keep attributing your successes and achievements to luck, your impostor might start feeding you BS as if you were found out and you won’t be able to continue your success. Luck is when opportunity and preparation meet and I guess you have been doing a lot of preparation, which requires competence and persistence. Sure, lady luck can shine on us from time to time, but you must remember and acknowledge all that you have done to contribute to your own success. Bottom up!
“Oh, it was actually nothing.”
Impostor syndrome sucks when it prevents you from seeing yourself in your own brilliance. Especially here in Australia, where tall poppy syndrome is rife, people are so afraid of showing up that they are more likely to put themselves down and reduce their efforts to nothing. The problem is that the old imposter gets stronger every time you do this. He strengthens your neural pathways and their power over you. If you constantly hear yourself saying, “Oh, it was nothing. I’m sure anyone could have done it.” Prayed “It wasn’t a big deal, really.” Then you know you are falling for tall poppy disease. It’s time to be more UP Yourself – focus on doing your best and when you do and someone complements you, just say “Why thank you.” Cue loud applause.
Get in and UP!
Isn’t it time you stopped playing small and let the impostor inside you win? You’ve come too far not to start believing in yourself and worrying about what your inner voice is saying. Being more UP Yourself is a decision. He decides to support you because you are worth it.