Unless you just came out of a coma, you know that the late Anna Nicole Smith’s ex-boyfriend is Larry Birkhead. He has been in the news ever since he announced that he was Dannielynn’s father. An interviewer asked him why he was still in the relationship despite Anna Nicole’s drug use. He said that he thought he could “save her”. He had “knight in shining armor syndrome”.

In her book, “Why We Love,” author Helen Fisher states that: Millions of years of protecting and providing for women have instilled in the male brain this tendency to choose women they feel they need to save. What separates man from the animal is his ability to think and reason. Just because it’s natural for men to be chivalrous doesn’t mean they can’t put a limit on how far they can go.

Should they open a door, pull out a chair, hold a woman’s hand when crossing the street, or give her her jacket if she’s cold? Absolutely. Should they try to save a woman whose life is a mess? They do so at their own risk.

Men try to save damsels in distress because it makes them feel powerful, in control and manly. Sometimes they are afraid of women and think that they will not be rejected if they solve a woman’s problems. They hide their shortcomings behind what appears to be strength. They know they don’t have their act in order, so instead of working on themselves, they prefer to work on someone else. Such relationships are doomed to fail.

If these men were really strong, they wouldn’t be trying to save someone who appears to be a victim. They don’t realize that aside from some circumstances beyond one’s control (acts of God, accidents, illnesses, etc.), one’s position in life is based on who they are on the inside, not someone or something.” out there.” There is an axiom that says: There are no victims, only volunteers.

The gentlemen believe that if the woman improves, she will become the perfect bride. The only problem is that if she becomes healthy, she won’t want to be with someone who has so many flaws that she tolerates being with a “broken-winged bird”. Healthy people don’t want to be with sick people.

On the other hand, if she does not improve, the man will never have the perfect girlfriend because his needs will not be met. Furthermore, his fears of an intimate relationship will not be repaired by staying with an unsuitable woman. It is a no-win situation.

Why else do men choose damsels in distress? According to Dr. Laura in her book, “Ten Things Men Do to Ruin Their Lives,” other reasons for “stupid chivalry” are: guilt over past transgressions and lifestyles, feelings of real or imagined inadequacy, fear of pain of abandonment, loneliness, ego aggrandizement, fears about the approval and acceptance of women (also known as moms), and a fragmented sense of masculinity. If you are currently trying to be a knight in shining armor, what is your reason?

Just because a man doesn’t recognize that a woman is responsible for his circumstances, doesn’t mean those same circumstances won’t come back to bite him in the butt at some future date. Larry Birkhead’s life is now chaotic as a result of trying to save a woman whose life was chaotic. Would you like her to be in her shoes?