About a week ago, I attended the most fascinating training I have ever experienced in my life. It involved sitting on folding chairs in a large white tent known as the Garden Pavillion at a luxury hotel in Irvine, CA, for 11 hours a day for 4 days in a row. Not once during the 44 hours of training did I feel bored, tired, or wish I was at nearby Disneyland instead of glued to my chair. The training was an Accelerated NLP Practitioner training. I learned many of the techniques and applications of NLP to become a certified practitioner, but more importantly, I learned about myself, how my thought processes and language patterns influence my perceptions of the world, and how I can make changes in those processes and patterns. to produce exceptional results for my emotional well-being.

What is NLP?

“It is an attitude that has to do with curiosity, with wanting to know about things, wanting to be able to influence things and wanting to be able to influence them in a way that is worthwhile” –Richard Bandler

Neuro-linguistic programming is a thinking and learning model developed by Dr. John Grinder and Richard Bandler. At the time of their collaboration, Grinder was an assistant professor of linguistics at the University of California, Santa Cruz, and Bandler was a student of psychology at the same institution. Together, they studied three of the most influential therapists of all time: Fritz Perls, creator of Gestalt therapy, Virginia Satir, an extraordinary family therapist who used the power of language to resolve conflicts and change lives, and Milton Erickson, a famous worldwide hypnotherapist. The result of Bandler and Ginder’s work was a model for using the power of language to change and influence thought patterns at the unconscious level to produce desired changes in behavior.

Neuro-linguistic programming is a cumbersome phrase that covers three simple ideas:

1. Neuro– recognizes the fundamental idea that all behavior is derived from our neurological processes of sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch and feeling. We experience the world through our five senses.

2. Linguistic– how we use language to order our thoughts and behaviors and to communicate with others.

3. Programming– refers to the ways we can choose to organize our ideas and actions to produce results.

NLP is a practical skill that creates the results we really want in the world while creating value for others in the process.
Using NLP to change focus

You do not need to change any of your beliefs or values ​​to use NLP. Just be curious and be ready to experiment. All generalizations about people are lies to someone, because they are all unique.Our beliefs act as filters, causing us to act in certain ways and become aware of some things but not others. NLP offers a way of thinking about ourselves and the world; it is itself a filter. By changing your filters, you can change your world.

Some of the basic NLP filters are often called Behavioral Frames. These are ways of thinking about how you act. This means figuring out what you and others want, finding the resources you have, and using these resources to move toward your goal.
Filter change
1. Change your orientation to Results instead of Problems.

2. Ask How instead of Why.

3. Focus on Feedback instead of Failure.

4. Consider Possibilitiesinstead of Necessities.

5. Adopt an attitude of Curiosity and fascinationinstead of doing Assumptions.
Everyday applications of NLP?

A problem is simply an incorrect result.NLP is like the ‘user manual’ for the mind and allows us to use the language of the mind to consistently achieve our specific and desired results.

When you learn NLP, you learn specific skills and patterns necessary to make positive changes, create new options, be more effective with others, break free from old habits, patterns, and self-destructive behaviors, and think more clearly about what you want. and how to get it.

NLP in your personal life

Using NLP techniques in your personal life will help you learn to control your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

* Get in control of your life.
* Get motivated and stay motivated.
* Identify clear results in all areas of your life.
* Make your goals come true.
* Improve your performance in sports and other activities.
* Eliminate limiting beliefs and decisions.
* Releases unwanted emotions and behaviors from the past.
* Align your values ​​around money, career, health, relationships, and family for greater success.
You can use NLP to create harmonious and satisfying relationships!
* Attract the right person for you.
* Improve the quality of your marriage.
* Create ideal relationships.
* Create the image you want of yourself.
* Create instant reports with others.
Create profound improvements in your health and well-being!
* Eliminate stress.
* Access healing states.
* Model of health and healing.
* Eliminate anxieties and phobias.
* Create and maintain your ideal weight.
* Stop smoking

Learn about the mind / body connection

NLP in your business life

* Set goals and achieve them
* Build trust
* Get motivated and stay motivated.
* Clarify your dreams for the future and identify barriers that may be holding you back
* Reach your goals
* Increase motivation
* Change unwanted behaviors
* Influence and persuade.
* Align your values ​​around money, career, health, relationships, and family for greater success.
Business communications: influence and persuasion
* Increase in sales
* Hiring the best candidates for your company.
* Creating strong partnerships with your customers, vendors, and suppliers.
* Communicate inter- and cross-culturally with ease and clarity.
* Improve results in negotiations
* Create world-class customer service
Management / Coaching
* Quickly analyze and understand the communication style of an employee or team members.
* Facilitate meetings and sales presentations.
* Create high performance teams.
* Easily resolve conflicts and create agreements around goals.
* Increase productivity.

(List of uses adapted from NLP Comprehensive)

Why NLP Works

NLP is based on many useful assumptions that support the attitude that change is imminent. One of the most important is that NLP is about what works, not what should work. In other words, if what you’re doing isn’t working, try something else, anything else, regardless of whether what you’ve been doing should have worked. Flexibility is the key element in a given system, the one most likely to do well responding to changing (or unchanging) circumstances. That is one of the reasons NLP has advanced so far in an area where that is not the norm. Innovators try things with little regard for their “truth” or “reality”, NLP is much more interested in results and giving people what they want out of life (cheesy yes, but not “true” However).